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[Martin-Boy2]

UGH

Guys, this is torture.

Now i don't want that to be mis-interpreted, not torture as in me obsessing over her or anything like that, but torturing to get the chance to speak to the damn girl!

I went to the store, she was in, good sign, there was a few people in there, i made myself look decent, styled hair looked pretty good. So everything was set up for a good show. I picked out film, walked near the counter, then someone else was about to serve me, i thought noooo lol, so i walked away and she called out "you wanna rent that", and i just said it's ok im just looking for something else.

I was waiting in the store for some time to find the right time for the counter to be empty so i could go up to her, and preferably without the co-worker next to her (there's usually just 2 workers at the counter at one time), then for brother to walk in the store, talk about blowing your cover. I know you'll probably think, it's your brother, don't be self concious, but it's not that, it's off putting, him standing there, and it's not a 1on1 sorta situation, he'll only try and make fun of me if i blew it, he's like that trust me. So that sorta blew things. I told him to look for a film while i went to the counter, only for the guy on her side to be stalling big time, eventually she served me but brother was standing there and her co-worker next to us. Great, chance and self conciousness ruined it.

So all was exchanged was pretty much "yes please" and the likes, damn. I was thinking of asking her things and such before hand if i got to speak to her without brother around me, without store customers next to me, without the co-worker, im not making a big deal out of it, but it seems the self conciousness is the problem.

I probably come across as not being interested or shy now, just great. Maybe it's the truth, the last few times Id been in there i hadn't really liked the way her hair was - being picky like im her boyfriend or something lol, but this time she looked really nice.

Man i can't help but feel disappointed in myself. There was one thing, she looked as though she was slightly embarrased/blushed a little, at the end she asked the co-worker next to her to open the bag, then looked at me smiled and then said thanks and bye but i think she may of blushed a little - just adding in these little possible details, could of been some interest, could of been she felt embarrased asking to get a bag opened for her, probably the latter


I know im going to get a ear full from you guys, forget her and the likes, but im unsure about that. I still am interested in her, and it's been a month or so, i just feel it's really starting to dragg and i can't keep waiting about in the store for her to be free, it might not happen at all, i can't get over the self conciousness though, ive tried but i just can't. I feel im limited to adding her online, but i know how so of you feel about that, i just really dunno.

But i just hate this feeling afterwards, goes on for even 30mins or so, i had contact with her and it's nothing, and of course seeing her is a plus, ahh man, teenage hormones lol.

Trying a lame excuse like "the film doesn't work", in order to get a different copy and get in contact again just doesn't seem right, mostly for the part they could try it thereselves and if it worked fine id look like a tool.

Nah but deep down, i know i have to try and i can't help but feel angry and really dishearten at myself. This can't be good either, it makes me feel down and will eventually bring on some negativity.

So, im starting to think " it", just add her online, might be able to get talking to her then, and it might make things better and more smooth when i see her in store, but then again it could backfire like FOF and BM have pointed out before hand, but to be honest, im just not getting things done at this time and it's really starting to drag, i need to get to know her and know where i stand, she might not even be interested, if that's the case, this is all really un-necessary and that's why things have to be sorted, right here right now!

Uhhh another day in paradise

[fitoverforty]

so i walked away and she called out "you wanna rent that", and i just said it's ok im just looking for something else.

gahhh!! you are killin' me Martin!!! The key words in that were "she CALLED OUT" - she made an over and above attempt to help you, to talk to you, clearly showing an interest in you!
You have to realize that the chances of you and her ever being in the store totally alone without any chance of distractions or other people is pretty much impossible. The ideal situation is not gonna happen - but don't let that stop you from talking to this girl!

Trying a lame excuse like "the film doesn't work", in order to get a different copy and get in contact again just doesn't seem right

how 'bout something like, when she asks you if you need help or "you wanna rent that" say "Uh, no, but could you show me where the documentary movies are?" some sort of movie that isn't real popular, so as not to look too transparent. Or you could say "yeah, there's this movie I heard of where this guy really thinks this girl is cute, but is too shy to tell her, it's set in England and the girl works in a rental store...maybe you've seen it, and could tell me how it ends?".....just kidding!!! lolol But you get point. Since the chances of you being able to talk to her privately at the check out counter are about next to nil..then you need to get her out from behind the counter and helping you find a movie, then you can have a bit more chance to talk to her.

that's why things have to be sorted, right here right now!

Now THAT'S the kind of confident attitude you need when you walk in there! don't leave until you get want you want. From the things you describe, especially today's events, I do think she likes you.
Don't let the co-worker, customers, or your brother intimidate you or stop you next time - you can do this!!

[Martin-Boy2]

Ahhh, i must of made a mistake, the woman that called out was her co-worker, not her unfortunately

You're right though, the chance of being alone in the store with her aren't exactly high, it has happened probably in the past where it hasn't been an interest to talk to her, but there's times when the store isn't busy and she's in there, it's possible, but of course if im in there too, and waiting for an ideal scenario, i haven't seen her on the shop floor in a while, which is a big point.

Ha, made me smirk reading that question lol

Thanks for the vote of confidence, i appreciate it and all the support, even if it seems a little dramatic, which i don't mean it to, just really need the chance

It's better than dealing with it on own, because id only end up making a wrong decision at least i can see if im doing something majorly wrong here. When i fail to get the contact with her that i want then it makes me feel like adding her online, but i keep putting myself off to do that at the moment.

It's weird, sometimes i can phsyc myself up with confidence going in there, like the time when i had bundles of confidence when she was in the back, i was the only guy in the store and some other guy served me, i could of talked to her with ease then if it were her serving me. Yet earlier it seemed the confidence went down the pain, could be related to the fact that the self conciousness took over and i knew i weren't going to try anything, but still, minimal words = shy. Or worse, least she may think im boring, or not interested.

I could go there tomorrow, i mean id have to return the film anyway, where it's the weekend it'll likely be busy, could go there earlier, but the chances are she will be working in the evening This is the thing, if she seems me in there again she'll probably get the wrong idea and think more along the lines of a stalker, ahh, all this, and she could even have a boyfriend. I really am making it more than what it is. It's good to come on here and read what you all have wrote, so please, write away, lol, im sure i'll eventually get there.. even if it's the answer im not looking for

In other news probably finishing the gym floor concreting tomorrow.

[Boss Man]

You must be nearly flat broke the amount of films you've been renting

[MissJenaKay]

Darling, I really don't know what to say. I wish I could help, but I'm a social cripple, so I'm not really helpful at all. I know just enough to get myself into trouble but not enough to be useful.

[Boss Man]

The fact you actually write on Martin's thread though and try is useful in itself .

[MissJenaKay]

If you say, Boss. Haha.

[Martin-Boy2]

You must be nearly flat broke the amount of films you've been renting

Lol, almost, have some "tokens" that ive been using though Down to last one

And yeah Jena, it's really nice to have some feedback.

Hopefully it'll all sort itself out... eventually

[MissJenaKay]

Well, I'm glad you think I'm helpful, darling.

[Martin-Boy2]

You are! Don't doubt it.

Went down there to return the film x2, first time walked there with brother as he was renting a movie and i was ment to take yesterdays shit film back but i forgot so drove down there and popped in for a second time but it was busy and don't think she even noticed.

Went in there, made myself look presentable again, done hair but i don't think she noticed me, maybe because she was serving or because i wasn't getting anything either way it's not exactly a positive.

After all this bullshit i feel, just fucking add her online and find out if she's even single. But i dunno, been there 2 days in a row not going in there this weekend, there's being local customers and going in there everyday.

But im just sick of sitting here feeling fucking useless all the time, like i could do more, i'll either just decide to forget it which i don't want to, or i dunno, longer it goes on worse it gets, it's not torture or nothing but it's just being made into more of a problem then it needs to be and overcomplicating things will get me no where, along with no confidence = no girl. Although the last statement isn't entirely true, i am confident when i want to be.

[MissJenaKay]

Wow, Brent, you couldn't be much further off if you tried. I don't know about the girls on this site, but to pretty much every woman I've ever met thinks that shy guys are sweet. We also don't like the ego of guys that are too upfront. Then again, what do I know?

[MissJenaKay]

I agree in that first statement. And I'm glad you are so knowledgable about what a woman in her late teens is looking for and what it's like to be one. :p

[Boss Man]

Brent was a teenager once and he no doubt had reasons sometimes to mingle with female teenagers, so I'm sure he'd know a little something about them at least .

[MissJenaKay]

I very highly doubt he knows what they really want. Men have A LOT of misconceptions about women. And I found his statements somewhat out of line and kind of ignorant.

[Boss Man]

I think sometimes females don't know what they want either. They can be so vastly different, that sometimes you'll get two that have little kindredship.

You get females that like strong guys, whereas some don't like beefy large guys.

Some females like arty or poetic types, some don't.

Some don't like intellectual guys, (probably ones their average intelligence), because they are potentially fun seekers, that don't like the idea of romantic walks and talking about politics, or that sort of thing, because they think it's boring.

Sensible females don't like flirty guys necessarily and prefer sensitive ones. Flirtacious ones don't like sensible guys, because common sense and conservative attitudes are boring. Yes it might be better for your self esteem, wellbing and safety, but females with a party hard have no cares attitude would expect guys to be up for that and some aren't.

Females can be very complex, so it wouldn't surprise me as I say, if they sometimes couldn't understand each other. I think one thing they sometimes say to each other is, "I just don't get you sometimes"