Ok so does age really matter!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Does age really matter when you try to loose weight?

I am starting to get a bit angry when bf is looking at me and telling me that i look (PLUMP) and that he should exchange me for a younger and newer model... he make joke but i actually offending....

I notice that really i have a harder time to loose weight lately like even 3 years ago i was loosing weight easyer then now...he told me that i don't make enough effort and that he still see me eat chocolat, and junk ... well i find it hard to stop eating everything at once and i told him that since i am 42 i have a harder time to loose weight he said that A BULLSHIT EXCUSE!!!!

Now what....that get me really depress ....i just feel like gaving up..!!! it seem that it will take for ever?

How should i start? What should i have for Breakfast? Should i go see a nutritionist? How much exercice should i do? I got too many question in head it drive me nuts? Can someone help me, and direct me on the right track please!!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

You could start by working on your own self-esteem. First, its the slutty chick from work that got into your head, now its your bf. If not these two, who will it be next? I told you once before to stop looking for validation from other people and validate yourself.

IT doesn't really matter what you eat for breakfast if you let someone else determine your worth.

I not sure what you mean Brenty? What do you mean by stop looking for validation... (sorry i am french actually so it take me a while to master what people are saying sometime) but do you mean that i am looking for approval from people before i start something?????

[fitoverforty]

I notice that really i have a harder time to loose weight lately like even 3 years ago i was loosing weight easyer then now...he told me that i don't make enough effort and that he still see me eat chocolat, and junk ... well i find it hard to stop eating everything at once and i told him that since i am 42 i have a harder time to loose weight he said that A BULLSHIT EXCUSE!!!!

Well, in a way you BOTH are right. Yes, as we age, our metabolism changes and the things you did when you were 20 to lose weight are no longer effective or as fast. And if you are still eating chocolate and junk - then of course, how can you expect to really see any lasting weight loss? You need to get honest with yourself, and either (as Brent is trying to say) accept yourself for how you are now, and the way you are maintaining that, or begin to really make the changes that will bring about the weight loss you seem to want. Change or acceptance comes from within. You have to decide which one you want.
It takes hard work - lots of it, and not just for a week or a month - but for the rest of your life. You have to make the decision to stop eating junk food, if you have to do it gradually, then fine, but still do it. You have to exercise - consistently 4 to 5 days a week.
I am talking to myself as much as I am to you. I have a hard time losing weight also, but if I am really honest with myself, it is because I have not truly 100% committed myself to the task. I know it can be done.
If you need to see proof, just take a look at Bonnie's journal in the Workout Journals section. It is called "New updated workout, out with old, in with new". Bonnie proves that women in their forties can change their bodies, lose weight and keep it off. No excuses, no shortcuts - just hard work and commitment. It works.

[Frenchmaid1969]

I notice that really i have a harder time to loose weight lately like even 3 years ago i was loosing weight easyer then now...he told me that i don't make enough effort and that he still see me eat chocolat, and junk ... well i find it hard to stop eating everything at once and i told him that since i am 42 i have a harder time to loose weight he said that A BULLSHIT EXCUSE!!!!

Well, in a way you BOTH are right. Yes, as we age, our metabolism changes and the things you did when you were 20 to lose weight are no longer effective or as fast. And if you are still eating chocolate and junk - then of course, how can you expect to really see any lasting weight loss? You need to get honest with yourself, and either (as Brent is trying to say) accept yourself for how you are now, and the way you are maintaining that, or begin to really make the changes that will bring about the weight loss you seem to want. Change or acceptance comes from within. You have to decide which one you want.
It takes hard work - lots of it, and not just for a week or a month - but for the rest of your life. You have to make the decision to stop eating junk food, if you have to do it gradually, then fine, but still do it. You have to exercise - consistently 4 to 5 days a week.
I am talking to myself as much as I am to you. I have a hard time losing weight also, but if I am really honest with myself, it is because I have not truly 100% committed myself to the task. I know it can be done.
If you need to see proof, just take a look at Bonnie's journal in the Workout Journals section. It is called "New updated workout, out with old, in with new". Bonnie proves that women in their forties can change their bodies, lose weight and keep it off. No excuses, no shortcuts - just hard work and commitment. It works.

Ha... ok .... thank you so much to explain this the way you did...!!!! I want too i really want to loose weight not just for looks or course once you loose weight you gain selfesteem but also for health.. and you also feel better with everything! Yea you right i guess i do have to be honest with myself.... its just that i start and i have a hard time to maintain... i do it for a week and then i get depress or i tell daughter look i lost 2 lbs and she said well that not much and i gest depress! I know that i should not listen what other people say or comment i should do this for myself its just that its suck when you try and you loose a bit but then people make negatif comment... bf he tell well that good, its better to loose 2 lbs then gain it... right!

When you say exercice 4 to 5 days a week... i guess biking for 30 min a day is not good enough, right? I also need to go lift weight? and do more then biking for cardio, like skipping rope? I will take a look at Bonnie Journals..

Also i have a very slow metabolism i don't know why if this is heridirary but mom is like that too... she take for ever to digest stuff and have a lots a problem with her whole digestif system and the intestin parts too... i am not sure if you system slow if this is play a part of how you loose weight?

[Frenchmaid1969]

Exercise and eating right will speed up your metabolism a bit.

You should definitely incorporate strength training. Most programs are three days of weight lifting and two-three days of additional cardio, so that looks like:

Monday = weights
Tuesday = cardio
Wednesday = weights
Thursday = cardio or off
Friday = weights
Saturday = cardio
Sunday = off

Recumbent biking is about the least effective thing you can do because you're not supporting your own bodyweight. Even getting on an elliptical will help you out. Treadmills are good but can be hard on your joints. Anything you can do standing will be better, unless you have injuries that prevent it.

I also don't talk about losing weight to anyone unless I hit a milestone. People will notice if you're losing. And if they don't, who cares? You're doing it for you!

And if boyfriend ever said something like that to me, I'd dump him. But that's just me. I want supportive people in life.

It will also help you to think about changing your lifestyle instead of going on a diet. If you make eating healthy your life, it's more difficult to get discouraged and give up.

Thank you so much with your help, do you mind if sometime i send you a message for some tips and for suggestion?
How long the cardio and weight session should be for start?

[Athene]

I'm 26 years old and have been athletic entire life, but I have noticed a lot of changes to body composition and metabolism as I have aged. Even from ages 20-25 huge changes occurred: excess fat shifted from abdomen to lower body, and it is much more difficult to shed weight than before. I used to train intensely for two weeks and lose anywhere from 10-15 pounds, now that is impossible! I might lose 3 pounds doing the same intense type of cardio workouts, and metabolism does not kick into high gear without more varied workouts and precisely monitored nutrition. I can't imagine how different things will be ten years from now, or even twenty.... I get the feeling I'm in for a real kick in the pants. That's kind of why I want to get a better handle on things now and drop some excess body fat. In summary, Yes - I think age matters!

Je voulais également vous féliciter votre 2 lbs perte. Un 2 lbs perte est une grosse affaire et devrait être applaudi, pas encore rencontré les critiques. Votre copain besoins d'assouplir un peu et vous aider sur votre voyage plutôt que chercher à faire dérailler vous, par ses critiques. Prendre soin!

[fit-fanatic-2025]

I don't if you've read Edgars journal either, but he is an older guy and he's lost 100 pounds this past year!! Pretty impressive. I think a lot of his weight loss is due to the fact that he found he really enjoyed running, so that's what he does a lot of.

[Frenchmaid1969]

I notice that really i have a harder time to loose weight lately like even 3 years ago i was loosing weight easyer then now...he told me that i don't make enough effort and that he still see me eat chocolat, and junk ... well i find it hard to stop eating everything at once and i told him that since i am 42 i have a harder time to loose weight he said that A BULLSHIT EXCUSE!!!!

Well, in a way you BOTH are right. Yes, as we age, our metabolism changes and the things you did when you were 20 to lose weight are no longer effective or as fast. And if you are still eating chocolate and junk - then of course, how can you expect to really see any lasting weight loss? You need to get honest with yourself, and either (as Brent is trying to say) accept yourself for how you are now, and the way you are maintaining that, or begin to really make the changes that will bring about the weight loss you seem to want. Change or acceptance comes from within. You have to decide which one you want.
It takes hard work - lots of it, and not just for a week or a month - but for the rest of your life. You have to make the decision to stop eating junk food, if you have to do it gradually, then fine, but still do it. You have to exercise - consistently 4 to 5 days a week.
I am talking to myself as much as I am to you. I have a hard time losing weight also, but if I am really honest with myself, it is because I have not truly 100% committed myself to the task. I know it can be done.
If you need to see proof, just take a look at Bonnie's journal in the Workout Journals section. It is called "New updated workout, out with old, in with new". Bonnie proves that women in their forties can change their bodies, lose weight and keep it off. No excuses, no shortcuts - just hard work and commitment. It works.

Thanks for the info i will read it this weekend...!!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

I'm 26 years old and have been athletic entire life, but I have noticed a lot of changes to body composition and metabolism as I have aged. Even from ages 20-25 huge changes occurred: excess fat shifted from abdomen to lower body, and it is much more difficult to shed weight than before. I used to train intensely for two weeks and lose anywhere from 10-15 pounds, now that is impossible! I might lose 3 pounds doing the same intense type of cardio workouts, and metabolism does not kick into high gear without more varied workouts and precisely monitored nutrition. I can't imagine how different things will be ten years from now, or even twenty.... I get the feeling I'm in for a real kick in the pants. That's kind of why I want to get a better handle on things now and drop some excess body fat. In summary, Yes - I think age matters!

Je voulais également vous féliciter votre 2 lbs perte. Un 2 lbs perte est une grosse affaire et devrait être applaudi, pas encore rencontré les critiques. Votre copain besoins d'assouplir un peu et vous aider sur votre voyage plutôt que chercher à faire dérailler vous, par ses critiques. Prendre soin!

Hi! yes that really suck that as we age we can't eat or do what ever we use too....i guess what mom use to tell me when i was younger made sence....lol

Oh merci pour me parler en francais c'est gentil! C'est juste que des fois il me dit oh tu as un paquet d'équipement pour faire l'exercice et tu fais rien... ca ramasse juste la poussière... bien je trouve pas ça trop gentil... je sais que je devrais faire plus d'exercice ça va venir ...je recommence a faire l'effort!
Merci d'avoir pris le temps m'écrire un petit mot en français!

Bonne soirée et bonne année!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

I don't if you've read Edgars journal either, but he is an older guy and he's lost 100 pounds this past year!! Pretty impressive. I think a lot of his weight loss is due to the fact that he found he really enjoyed running, so that's what he does a lot of.

oh ok... i will check it out..!! I can't run because i have planter faciatis i think that how you prononce it in english but i even hurts to walk this why i use to bike!!!

[fit-fanatic-2025]

Biking is good exercise too. I really like Edgars journal! He started in Jan of this year and lost the 100 pounds over 2010. I think the trick to any diet and exercise program really is sticking to your calorie amount and getting the exercise in. Barring any medical issues like throid or other things. Hopefully at the same time you learn a healthy lifestyle as well. That is hope for myself anyways. You and I too, can do it Frenchie! As Brent would say!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Biking is good exercise too. I really like Edgars journal! He started in Jan of this year and lost the 100 pounds over 2010. I think the trick to any diet and exercise program really is sticking to your calorie amount and getting the exercise in. Barring any medical issues like throid or other things. Hopefully at the same time you learn a healthy lifestyle as well. That is hope for myself anyways. You and I too, can do it Frenchie! As Brent would say!

I have not read Edgars journal yet but i will for sure! I believe you that the only thing to loose weight is exercice and eating properly...i was reading the comment Brenty left me about selfseteem and more i think about it i can see that you i might have low self esteem ...I always feel that i am not good enough or if someone gave me complement i never really believe them i am not sure why but i guess its something i will have to figure out! Thanks for your suggestion, comment, ect! its nice to be able to chat with people here, it help a great deal sometime!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Sometime i hate the fact to have to count calories, mesure everything and stuff.... counting how many calories or if you go over 1,800 calories a day... i find this really hard to do but most of its very pain in the butt... maybe its because i am not use to it and with time i will!!

Do you guys mesure everything you eat, and write everthing you eat...??????

[Frenchmaid1969]

I eat similar stuff all the time, so I have a general idea of what it's like. I use an Excel spreadsheet to track everything for a couple of weeks now and again to see if I'm really on track like I think I am. I hate doing it too, but it can really show you where your hidden calories are. Maybe you're using a dressing that has like 200 cals per 2 tbsp and you end up using 1/4 cup...that can show up there.

Ok ok so you not using the Fit Tracker here you just look at the food label and do it from there? Because i started a while ago using the fittracker and i got depress of always writing the food that was not there and it took a long time so i stop..!

[fit-fanatic-2025]

i was reading the comment Brenty left me about selfseteem and more i think about it i can see that you i might have low self esteem ...I always feel that i am not good enough or if someone gave me complement i never really believe them i am not sure why but i guess its something i will have to figure out!

I think a lot of people have low self esteem, myself included! problem is I"m ultra sensitive to comments people make. So I know how you feel!