What am I doing wrong?

[MissJenaKay]

LOL @ needing calipers...that is some funny shit right there.

A pair of plastic spock ears would be more useful.

Step number 1 - lose the self-loathing. It must be self-loathing week here at shapefit. That's gotta stop, Jena, there;s just no way around it. If you hate something then it will never be worth fixing so please please please drop that shit and grow up a bit. You are alright. You are worth "fixing" I denied myself alot of youth self-loathing and being fat and I couldnt get head around it until I turned 40. Once I looked at myself and accepted me the weight started falling off, just about immediately. Everything just gets easier once you free yourself of that attitude.

Read-the Gabriel Method - it is a little far fetched but there is some great stuff in there.
Read-the 7 habits of highly effective people - covey - life changing

I do not appreciate you being rude. There is also no need for you to be cursing. Also, you know nothing about me other than the fact that I highly dislike body, so please do not even attempt to pass judgment and tell me to grow up. Also, if you're going to write "step 1" You should probably have at least another step. I understand that if I can kick self-loathing, it will be easier for me to lose weight. I'm not stupid by any means at all, and I really wish I could bring myself to care for myself and accept who I am, but you don't know life or situation or anything.

Call me a brat, get angry with me, do whatever you wish, but don't try to tell me what to do if you don't take even the time to understand me.

Thanks,
Jena

[cassiegose]

LOL @ needing calipers...that is some funny shit right there.

A pair of plastic spock ears would be more useful.

Step number 1 - lose the self-loathing. It must be self-loathing week here at shapefit. That's gotta stop, Jena, there;s just no way around it. If you hate something then it will never be worth fixing so please please please drop that shit and grow up a bit. You are alright. You are worth "fixing" I denied myself alot of youth self-loathing and being fat and I couldnt get head around it until I turned 40. Once I looked at myself and accepted me the weight started falling off, just about immediately. Everything just gets easier once you free yourself of that attitude.

Read-the Gabriel Method - it is a little far fetched but there is some great stuff in there.
Read-the 7 habits of highly effective people - covey - life changing

I do not appreciate you being rude. There is also no need for you to be cursing. Also, you know nothing about me other than the fact that I highly dislike body, so please do not even attempt to pass judgment and tell me to grow up. Also, if you're going to write "step 1" You should probably have at least another step. I understand that if I can kick self-loathing, it will be easier for me to lose weight. I'm not stupid by any means at all, and I really wish I could bring myself to care for myself and accept who I am, but you don't know life or situation or anything.

Call me a brat, get angry with me, do whatever you wish, but don't try to tell me what to do if you don't take even the time to understand me.

Thanks,
Jena

Forgive me if its not place to "butt in" here Jena but Brent wasn't trying to be rude in any way. He tends to not beat around the bush when it comes to helping people, which in opinion is kind of a breath of fresh air as I personally get tired of people sugar coating things. As Brent said, you're alright and you're "worth fixing". He, like many of us on this site, has learned the hard way that hating yourself will get you NO WHERE in life. As he said, it wasn't until he turned 40 that he realized what he needed to do to accept himself and figure out how to improve himself. Youre young and you have you WHOLE life ahead of you... I believe Brent was trying to help as he simply doesn't want you to make the same "mistakes" (for lack of better word) that he did.

Cassie

[MissJenaKay]

Forgive me if its not place to "butt in" here Jena but Brent wasn't trying to be rude in any way. He tends to not beat around the bush when it comes to helping people, which in opinion is kind of a breath of fresh air as I personally get tired of people sugar coating things. As Brent said, you're alright and you're "worth fixing". He, like many of us on this site, has learned the hard way that hating yourself will get you NO WHERE in life. As he said, it wasn't until he turned 40 that he realized what he needed to do to accept himself and figure out how to improve himself. Youre young and you have you WHOLE life ahead of you... I believe Brent was trying to help as he simply doesn't want you to make the same "mistakes" (for lack of better word) that he did.

Cassie

The only issue I had about it was the tone he used and the fact that he needlessly cursed. Other than that, I understand that he was only trying to help. And I appreciate that. I just dislike it when it seems like someone is commanding me to do something and not even being remotely nice about it. Which is how it seemed to me. :/ Oh well. Sorry for the misunderstanding. :/

Jena

[Boss Man]

Don't apologise Jena. You're human and that was a human way to interpret the post by Brent, not a clumsy or stupid way.

So don't give yourself a hard time to any extent about it, I'm sure he would understand why you thought the way you did.

You are a very, very good hearted young Lady and also a very, very human individual too. Both of which have a huge amount of worth in todays world, so be proud of those qualities and don't feel you ever have to apologise for them, or justify them as you don't.

Being you in many ways is something to be really proud of and you ARE still learning more about yourself and the bigger world every day, but I know with more time you will continue to blossom and mature into a really, really great personality and a pretty special human being.

In the end, it's all good so don't worry about it okay .

[MissJenaKay]

Don't apologise Jena. You're human and that was a human way to interpret the post by Brent, not a clumsy or stupid way.

So don't give yourself a hard time to any extent about it, I'm sure he would understand why you thought the way you did.

You are a very, very good hearted young Lady and also a very, very human individual too. Both of which have a huge amount of worth in todays world, so be proud of those qualities and don't feel you ever have to apologise for them, or justify them as you don't.

Being you in many ways is something to be really proud of and you ARE still learning more about yourself and the bigger world every day, but I know with more time you will continue to blossom and mature into a really, really great personality and a pretty special human being.

In the end, it's all good so don't worry about it okay .

Okay. :]

[opheliapain]

Aside from inconsistencies in your eating habits, you may want to ease off of the water. As a young woman your water intake should only be 8-10 glasses of water daily (8 oz). There is a condition called hyponatremia; if your water consumption is too high you can flush electrolytes from your system (namely sodium). This in combination with poor eating habits (too few calories, not enough minerals, and strenuous exersize), could lead to water intoxication. This could lead to water retention, but there would be other symptoms as well such as dizzyness, nausea and vomiting. Suffice it to say that if you really are drinking that much water you could be putting yourself at risk. I took a look at your profile and noticed you mentioned that you are concerned you may have an eating disorder. In opinion you should see a medical profession about your diet and eating habits. I am sorry to be so blunt, but you should take these things seriously at this point. Hope all goes well with you, you are an exceptionally beautiful woman and should always hold your head up high. Here is a link you may find useful: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/water/NU00283" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

[Fygle]

Drink water when you're thirsty and 1 pint with every meal, that's more than plenty. The body is good at letting you know what you need and when.