sahanrishi wrote:
I am a pure vegetarian.
breakfast at 10:30am: i glass full milk, a handful of mixed dry fruits(walnuts, almonds, cashew, raisn, dates) and a piece of fruit.
(You're slightly confusing the issue here for yourself. Walnuts Almonds and Cashews are Nuts, Cashews being the only one of those three to be a Carb source. The Raisins and Dates are very high GI, especially Dates, they rank about 105, which is higher than pure Glucose, when comparing the same Carb amount in both.
You need Bloodsugar elevation when you wake, not least to have Carbs to feed your Brain. You could go a bit higher than you would normally, but not too much is quite important, as frequently high Bloodsugar elevations can sometimes result in type two Diabetes.
I would suggest, you keep the Fruit, keep the Cashews, for added Carb and Fats, and then you need more Protein than the Nuts will give you, in order to preserve muscle mass, and give yourself adequate daily amino acid intake. As you already do that with Milk, you should be fine.)
lunch: brown rice or 2 wheat breads(flat indian bread) called "roti" with vegetables vegetables are either boiled or stir fried with some spices) and a cup of youghurt.
(I'd stick to the Rice and Veggies, as Wheat bread is low Protein. Veggies will lower the effects on Bloodsugar from the Rice. I would however reduce Rice amount, keep the Yoghurt for more Protein and Carbs, and consider perhaps a slight increase in Veggie amounts, to help recover some lost Rice Carbs.)
evening time: green tea and most of the times a handful of banana chips, potato wafers (i know this is not doing any good to me, but i feel the need to eat something crunchy with a little salt and spice)
(No you need to change this. I'd would opt for something like a portion of Legumes, (Peas, Beans, Lentils), and a small portion of Rice or Mushrooms, to boost Carbs, and to compliment the two Protein sources, to make sure Amino intake is good.)
dinner: 2 "rotis" (indian wheat bread) with vegetables (vegetables are either boiled or stir fried with some spices)
(This is okay, but you need more Protein somewhere. Difficult for a Vegetarian, but maybe some Low Fat Cheese perhaps, or some Eggs, (assuming you're not an Eggitarian), Legumes maybe, or Mushrooms perhaps.)
before bed time: a glass of warm milk (i sometimes forget to drink it or feel too lazy to drink it) i take in plain milk wihtout sugar or any added flavours.
(If you want to add snacks in between meals, then things like Low Fat Cheese, Peanuts, Nut Yoghurts, Beans and Rice, maybe even Soy and Soy products like Tempeh, Edamame, Tofu etc etc, if possible.)
The power for you to do this is all in your head. Humans are programmed in many ways to be lazy. Even in prehistoric times, when females had pre-defined domesticated roles, men would be very active through hunting, but things like mammalian domestication, changed that for some, making animals more of convenience foods, or easier to get from local farmers, so as time progressed, humans lost the need to be active, through progress and modernisation.
The ability to be active on a consistent basis, has always remained, but it is a mental thing. Without belief, patience and mental and emotional balance / control of your physical actions, achievement potential will remain very poor for some. As many try but cave in and lose motivation.
If you are strong mentally, and remain focused on not just the short-term goals you seek, but on the long-term health of your body, so as to better preserve yourself for old age, you will not fail to achieve what you want.
You need to remember, that sometimes you will make mistakes, you are human, it's allowed, so don't be hard on yourself. When that happens, learn from it, pick yourself up, move on and keep doing what you are capable of. To properly care for yourself, you have to be caring for yourself, not hard and emotionally punishing on yourself when you make human errors.
So good luck to you, and don't be afraid of making mistakes, or feeling like you aren't doing things right. It's a learning process, but it's something you CAN get right, if you believe in yourself enough.
You ARE worth the time end effort to change yourself. Don't ever forget that. You DO have value as a person, so keep realising that and building on it yeah. Your attitude to people here, shows you're quite a warm person and you want to care for yourself, so you certainly deserve the chance to succeed at your chosen goal
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I hope we can help you to change yourself for the better. We will care for you, if you continue to care for yourself okay
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im so upset... i am not able to pull myself together... due to weight gain, periods are now off track and delayed since 4 months... i am a home maker, live in delhi, INDIA. i got no motovation, no buddy nor friend to support ... i want to know if anyone are facing the same disgust i am going through. i want to so much kick myself back to the routine. i have a long long way to go and have to lose 50 pounds. i am married and so much want a baby but i cant go for it now as i know i will put on immense weight which is not good for me or the baby... i feel so flushed out with all these challenges in front of me... i try to stay positive but also feel like venting out a whole lot of things so that i feel much lighter on the inside... feel so lost... 
need help... 
all the best.
