parents, they don't understand...

[jillb069]

They don't know what it takes to lose weight and keep it off. I know its not easy for everyone, its hard for most people. But Dad and Step-Mom wont even listen to me. They think I'm nuts. They rolled their eyes at me once because I wouldn't eat something that contained 7 grams of Transfat (Oh god!)
I couldn't find a "Rants and Raves" section on the forum. I thought there atleast used to be one. But anyway, I need to vent. I am not professinally trained in nutrition or fitness, but I've been working out whole life and eating right for most of it. I began a certified personal trainer program but was unable to finish.
parents are the complete opposite of me. They are what I like to call the typical failed dieters. I've seen them try and lose weight more times than I can count. Always looking for a magical way to lose weight easily.
They started yet another diet recently and are currently obese and would like to be overweight. I'm grateful that they have set realistic goals, but they drive me nuts. Especially this last Saturday, I tried talking to father about being successful with his goals, tequniques I use when craving bad foods (especially with this Halloween that went by, first year ever, not one peice of candy consumed ) ways to get motivated on "lazy days". He kept dismissing words and saying things like "Yeah, ok. Easy for you, Skinny." He thinks its easy for me because I'm "skinny already". I can almost guarantee that if I did not live this lifestyle and instead ate nasty "empty calorie" crap and lived sedentary, I would be sporting a pair of love handles or perhaps a second and I would always feel like crap. I know because in seventh grade before I got in shape, I had love handles, I was twelve! I tried telling them both that lifting is very important, they don't wanna here it. step-mother especially, she is one who believes women that lift will look like Chyna from the WWE.
I did live with them for quite a few years in which they have witnessed me go about a regular weight lifting and cardio routine. They've constantly seen me turn down potato chip after potato chip and cake and things like that (ok maybe not every peice of cake ). Do they seriously believe that I have gotten to where I am by luck and not hard work and discipline? It makes me want to rant and rave when they look at me and say I have it "made". Are you kidding me?
I just want them to be healthy. They want to be healthy, but I think they're looking for the easy way (which we all know, does not exist!) I love them and would like them to be around for as long as possible.

[Boss Man]

Two things.

1. You need to make them understand that they can't use poor logic and stupid reasoning to be lazy about their efforts. All this weights make you look like a steroid user and you're thin it's easy for you crap won't wash.

You need to tell them straight it isn't easy, it's not like some people say, it's not a myth, or a load of contradicitions, it's a lifestyle that many can sustain, without feeling second rate or losing the ability to do it.

Unless they really understand they'll never get it.

2. You need to realise it won't happen overnight and that there has to be a certain level of stepping back, and letting them react to what is neeeded.