Diet. How many calories do i really need

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:37 pm

carefree wrote:Thanks Diana

i know you are right, and yes maybe i do have a bit more of a problem than i admit, even to myself, but as you say its just not a man thing to have, so i suppose i just dont really talk about it to anyone, until i came on to here, but that was not intentions when i first came on here.

I am now going to have 6th meal of the day,lol, god knows what i am going to have this time, its really hard to eat when you are simply not hungry. i really do feel stuffed but i must continue with this.
Thanks for your reply
Take care

If it makes you feel better, most guys on a bulk plan go through the same things you are going through, eating disorder or not. Feeling disgustingly full, not wanting to eat etc.

So go talk to your doctor and get a referral to someone to help you with the anxiety over food. It's not a big deal, everyone needs help with stuff sometimes. Just don't fall into the trap of posting your problems everyday on the internet and not doing anything else to them. Don't be a victim, be a hero and beat this thing.

carefree · Post by **carefree** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:44 pm

hello all

i need to change user name. if someone can let me know how to do it i would be most greatful. i want to change it to FAT PRIZED HEATHER.

cant stop cos i now need to go and have 12th or is it 13th meal of the day.

weigh day in three days time.

swanso5 · Post by **swanso5** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 3:45 pm

not sure about the user name thing...i don;t you can...mine typed in wrong...it's meant to be swans05

vamp · Post by **vamp** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 5:17 pm

So here's the question.....

If you are 6' 4", why are you under 200 lbs? I mean really?

Me 231 lbs at 5' 8" and only about 55 of that is fat (i'm around 23-24%) currently.

You got 6" on me and you weigh less? How many ribs can you count and is there any muscle on your arms and legs? Are you trying to look like a living skeleton?

And to think all this time you've been trying to loose weight and what you've needed is to put some on.

hmmmmmmm

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Tue Jul 15, 2008 10:14 pm

carefree wrote:hello all

i need to change user name. if someone can let me know how to do it i would be most greatful. i want to change it to FAT PRIZED HEATHER.

cant stop cos i now need to go and have 12th or is it 13th meal of the day.

weigh day in three days time.

Skip the weigh in this week. I have no idea how much you weigh, and I'm here bugging the shit out of you, WHY, because what you weigh isn't important. It's the attitude towards food that is.
Make me a deal not to weigh yourself or take laxatives or any other crap, Just relax, eat and listen to your body, not your head.

Boss Man · Post by **Boss Man** » Wed Jul 16, 2008 11:58 am

I agree. There are natural laxatives people can take anyway.

Prunes

Figs.

Good Fibre intake.

Increased water might help

Possibly natural things like Senna.

Actual Laxative Laxatives, are not necessary.

You CAN achieve what you want, you just need to believe in it, and not be so concerned with the weight thing. I've actually weighed myself, must be 2-3 times I think, in the last 4-5 years, just out of curiosity.

You're a part of our community now, you're one of us, and we'll look out for you, as long as you treat your body properly, which means no pissy laxatives, and no even if you could change your username, I wouldn't tell you how, because you having a "negative" username isn't productive.

The one you have is more positive, and a better username, because one day it WILL reflect you as a person pretty much, and right now you SHOULD be proud of trying to change, and proud of what you're trying to do.

It's clear you're a great person, with a good heart, and that's always a big plus, so no worries okay, just don't be so focused on things like weight etc etc, and just keep trusting in your own efforts, believing in yourself, and giving the food and exercise time to do their thing.

If you're 100% you'll get 100%.

Be strong, chin up and GOOD LUCK.

carefree · Post by **carefree** » Sun Jul 20, 2008 2:53 pm

Once again thanks for all the replies, Boss man you really know your stuff, thanks
No i am not trying to look skinny or like a skeleton, its not about that. I cant see any ribs on me, when i look in a mirror i see fat everywhere, on , chest and legs. I would not walk around with out a shirt on i can tell you that, no way. But everyone else tells me i am very skinny and that they can see rib cage, but i cant see it. And its what i see on me that counts. I like things to be right, perfect, and i know body needs to lose a lot of fat until i can be happy about putting on some weight. Talking of weight, i have put on 2 more lbs again this week, despite this, i have been continuing with the eight meals a day, but, i have slowed it down a little bit, the last meal of the day is just too hard for me to get it in when i put on weight (please dont reply to that bit if you dont have a cos you dont understand). I am going to carry on with the plan as i do feel better, a lot better and i dont get light headed any more and i am not so tiered.

cassiegose · Post by **cassiegose** » Mon Jul 21, 2008 12:44 pm

Yay for not feeling light headed and tired!!!!! :)

I'm sooooo glad you're continuing on with the 8 meals a day! Keep up the great work and please don't get discouraged with this (very slight!) weight gain. I know what you're going through and I know that this is soooo difficult for you. I'm here to tell you that this isn't going to get easier over night. It will take a lot of time... alot of effort.... alot of struggling... and alot of patience.... but I know that if you keep up the great work and keep thinking postive thoughts there will come a day when you can look in the mirror and see yourself as the great person that you are. :) Please don't get down on yourself. Two steps forward and one step back is still progress. You'll get there eventually!

Keep your chin up friend!

Cassie :)

"Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson~

carefree · Post by **carefree** » Tue Jul 22, 2008 7:12 am

unfortunately this will be the last post on this forum. i cant carry on with this plan, i weighed myself again this morning and another 3lbs has gone on, thats 6lbs in 10 days. it may not be such a thing to most people, but to me its a real problem, i cant think of anything else, all day its been on mind, the voice in head has won, and there is no way can i eat eight meals a day, to be honest i am having trouble eating one. One thing, this site has helped me realise i do have a problem with food, i think i always knew i did but until i came on here i would never admit to it. i am thinking about getting some help, and maybe i can talk to someone, a friend or even the Mrs.

Thankyou for all your replies, and who knows one day i might start a new forum.

Stay lucky

nothing tastes nicer than being thin

cassiegose · Post by **cassiegose** » Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:38 am

This breaks heart. :(

Boss Man · Post by **Boss Man** » Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:35 pm

It is a difficult thing to see, but the truth is, the nature of what we do here Cassie, is not always a smooth one, and there will be occasional times like this, when unfortunately a person decides to take this course of action.

All we can do is to continue to help the people who still post here, and hope those few in a situation like this, (if they truly do move on from here), find a way to overcome their issues, and find an improved way of living.