Hi... first post...wohoo :)I have been reading this site for a long time but never posted anything on here.
For the last year and a half I have been going to the gym three times a week. The treadmil, the weight and for the last 8 month cardio kickboxing. Its fun and I lost almost 30 pounds.
Now I am trying to think of a way to convince hubbie to join the gym as well. Would be fun to exercise with him but he doesnt seem interested. He doesn't need to loose any weight, but he is pretty small for a guy. And it would be a health benefit of course.
When we cleaned out the basement this weekend I got the impression that I might have more strength than him. It doesn't bother me, but it did feel a little bit weird. Simply becuase I did not expect that. Has anybody else here been in that situation?
What did you do? Were you able to convince your hubbie to go to the gym with you?
Thanks.
Jamie
How to motivate hubbie to join me at the gym?
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Hey, I am new to this forum too... DH is always the inspiration to me..he is overweight, and diabetic..So, that is all the inspiration he needs...Perhaps just sit down and talk to your boyfriend and see if there is a particular reason / thing keeping him outta the gym..Maybe then you could kinda go from there 
Sorry, know that probably doesn't help much... 
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Re: How to motivate hubbie to join me at the gym?
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i think it's very hard to convince someone to go to gyms lift weights , but i think you can convice him to train at home , why dont u buy some dumbbells and bench and make him train at home , he will not feel laziness............................. , if you cannot do that , then there's just one solution ..... get mad at him
i think it's very hard to convince someone to go to gyms lift weights , but i think you can convice him to train at home , why dont u buy some dumbbells and bench and make him train at home , he will not feel laziness............................. , if you cannot do that , then there's just one solution ..... get mad at him
I am not sure how you could get you man to go to the gym. I had the same problem with wife not wanting to go. I begged her time in and out. Then one day she just decided she wanted to go. If a person does not want to go not talking/fighting in the world is going to get them too. They need to be self motivated.
I think it is a bad idea for hubbie and wifey to train together.
The one factor that I've seen over the many years that I trained in a public gym is that for the people who stay for years and years the training and the conditioning become incidental to the escapism of the gym.
For 1-1/2 hours each day you train the real world does not exist. There are exercise machines, chrome, mirrors and grunts, but no bills, no spouses, no bosses and no job. No kids and no dogs or cats. It is a daily mini-vacation disguised as a workout. There is no class difference between members; construction workers and supreme court judges wear sweats and train side by side; doctors and salesmen; chefs and cops--everyone is equal in the gym.
What would ruin this experience is the jarring interdiction of the real world that a spouse would bring to the scene.
I would encourage him to join a gym, but not the one you joined. I would encourage him pack his gym bag before he left the house so he could go to the gym before coming home. Let him leave his frustrations and anger from the day's work dissipate in the gym and never make it home. It will improve your home life immeasurably.
If he comes home first there are a million things that can crop up that will prevent him from getting to the gym; coming home first is the single largest mistake you can make if you join a public gym. Gym first; home second; dinner when you can get it--always that way, never the reverse.
The one factor that I've seen over the many years that I trained in a public gym is that for the people who stay for years and years the training and the conditioning become incidental to the escapism of the gym.
For 1-1/2 hours each day you train the real world does not exist. There are exercise machines, chrome, mirrors and grunts, but no bills, no spouses, no bosses and no job. No kids and no dogs or cats. It is a daily mini-vacation disguised as a workout. There is no class difference between members; construction workers and supreme court judges wear sweats and train side by side; doctors and salesmen; chefs and cops--everyone is equal in the gym.
What would ruin this experience is the jarring interdiction of the real world that a spouse would bring to the scene.
I would encourage him to join a gym, but not the one you joined. I would encourage him pack his gym bag before he left the house so he could go to the gym before coming home. Let him leave his frustrations and anger from the day's work dissipate in the gym and never make it home. It will improve your home life immeasurably.
If he comes home first there are a million things that can crop up that will prevent him from getting to the gym; coming home first is the single largest mistake you can make if you join a public gym. Gym first; home second; dinner when you can get it--always that way, never the reverse.
I don't know anyone who has trained for a long time that goes home first and then goes to the gym. It simply does not work. (You can force it to work short-term, but long-term it simply does not work.)
Similarly I don't know anyone who works out at the same gym (at the same times) as their spouse for long term either. It spoils the mini-vacation-ness of the experience. Invariably if you meet your spouse at the gym the real world will creep in ( boss is such an ...; The kids were acting up again...; Our property taxes have gone up to $8,400.00--we got the bill today...)
So, if you train at the same gym as your spouse then make sure you are in an aerobics class when he is in the gym; and that he is out running when you are lifting--or just come at different times of the day.
Similarly I don't know anyone who works out at the same gym (at the same times) as their spouse for long term either. It spoils the mini-vacation-ness of the experience. Invariably if you meet your spouse at the gym the real world will creep in ( boss is such an ...; The kids were acting up again...; Our property taxes have gone up to $8,400.00--we got the bill today...)
So, if you train at the same gym as your spouse then make sure you are in an aerobics class when he is in the gym; and that he is out running when you are lifting--or just come at different times of the day.
husband and I belong to the same gym, but go at different times of the day. Since I go first thing in the morning (5:30 AM) and he goes after work when so many things can interfere, needless to say I go more often. He is considering going in the morning (needing to rearrange some other things) but we will probably drive separately so we both can work at own pace and leave when we're ready. That'll work - there's lots of space at the gym that we won't run into each other! After all if we're truly working out, we won't have the time or energy to socialise about the real world or anything else! 
BUT, I totally understand what Packard is saying!
For the original posting - I really don't believe you can do anything to get your husband to go with you, with the exception of setting an example - he'll see the results you have achieved and he'll want some!! In the end if he doesn't want to go or see any benefit in doing so, he won't go! Just enjoy what it's doing for you - I know it makes me feel energized, healthy and happy!
BUT, I totally understand what Packard is saying!For the original posting - I really don't believe you can do anything to get your husband to go with you, with the exception of setting an example - he'll see the results you have achieved and he'll want some!! In the end if he doesn't want to go or see any benefit in doing so, he won't go! Just enjoy what it's doing for you - I know it makes me feel energized, healthy and happy!
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wife and I go to the same gym and love it.
We have a special relationship though I guess, as we are best friends and soul mates too.
She married a man, therefore she wants a man so if I am motivated by a hot chick or by some competition she gets motivated at me being motivated lol.
Same for me, if I see her flirt with a guy or get noticed by someone it makes the reason we go to the gym a plus, ( I mean anyone that denyed a little vanity in the gym is not telling the truth)
So we like to be able to know we can still live and be a Man or a woman, ( getting married did not change that and make us robots)
As far as the life aspect, we are both gym rats so we know life outside the gym will be there when we get home.
I do see other couples have problems in the gym though, they get possesive or jealous, or they carry an argument in with them... it is pathetic really and has to do with their life not the fact they share a gym.
As far as how to motivate another into the gym with you, hard to do they must want to work out or they will never last. If they do not last, then it will bring you down and out of the gym too eventually. The key is to stay the course alone, keep mentioning it to him and let him see the differences in you. He will want to make changes himself sooner or later.
We have a special relationship though I guess, as we are best friends and soul mates too.
She married a man, therefore she wants a man so if I am motivated by a hot chick or by some competition she gets motivated at me being motivated lol.
Same for me, if I see her flirt with a guy or get noticed by someone it makes the reason we go to the gym a plus, ( I mean anyone that denyed a little vanity in the gym is not telling the truth)
So we like to be able to know we can still live and be a Man or a woman, ( getting married did not change that and make us robots)
As far as the life aspect, we are both gym rats so we know life outside the gym will be there when we get home.
I do see other couples have problems in the gym though, they get possesive or jealous, or they carry an argument in with them... it is pathetic really and has to do with their life not the fact they share a gym.
As far as how to motivate another into the gym with you, hard to do they must want to work out or they will never last. If they do not last, then it will bring you down and out of the gym too eventually. The key is to stay the course alone, keep mentioning it to him and let him see the differences in you. He will want to make changes himself sooner or later.