kinda irrelevent but--GIRL HELP !! opinions ppl !!

x_rated_mo · Post by **x_rated_mo** » Tue Oct 09, 2007 2:34 pm

i'm normally the one to give advice to pals but i'm in a wierd situation.

girlfriend and i broke up she travelled, n i'm begining to get over her.

so theres this other girl i met through a mutual friend, we talked on the phone a couple times before actually meeting in person--i really like her!!

HERE GOES

we went to second cup for a coffee .. shes the kinda girl who doesnt look u in the eye till she knows u well .. at first she didnt but later she did

i arrived a bit late, but she knew that cuz i talked to her on the phone on way .. when we met though, i had a hard time figuring her out. she kinda new personality and vice versa cuz of our phone convos, so we're kina interested in eachother .. but she would do friendly gestures like pokin me or punchin me playfully, she would say "i'm not gonna see u again after today (cuz she's travelling soon for 2 months)"--n to me, these r signs of uninterest ..

later she had to go buy something from the mall, so we barely spent 45 minutes there .. at first i was tryina talk her into stayin, then i was like w/e lets go ..

(she didnt invite me with her to the mall--is that normal ??)

so we get to the bus terminal n she was about to go, then i told her "one sec, have a seat i need to talk to u"
i just spilled out feelings to her, at first i told her i didnt like her in fear of rejection, but wen i admitted that i did she told me she liked me too, n i asked her y she didnt invite me with her n she reacted as if inviting me is something abnormal .. anyway after we discussed our feelings, she took hand n we went to the mall n shopped for stuff she needs..

i think that our time in the mall brought us closer ..
so anyway, after she bought her stuff, she had to go home n give her mom the stuff so she can cook dinner ..
at this time, i was thinkin that she wasnt really interested, just saying things ..

but while we were waitin for her bus, she jumps on me n gives me a big hug out of nowhere .. n her eyes looked at me as if they were sayin i love u .. so i grabbed her by the hand n told her "lets go to the side im cold"
we went n we kissed there ..
then her bus comes n she leaves, she left me with satisfaction--but she also left me with confusion ..

(btw--no call from her that night, although i sent her a msg telling her i had a good time, n i called her the night after (yesterday) n she told me its too late to be callin her--if she liked me wouldnt she talk to me regardless of the time??)

how do u guys think she feels about me ??

IF U'VE READ THIS FAR THANK U SO MUCH I KNOW ITS AN ARTICLE HAHA

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Tue Oct 09, 2007 3:56 pm

Maybe she likes you but b'coz she is going away for awhile doesn't want to get into anything. Maybe it WAS too late to call her, if she lives with her parents they might not like that.
Just ask her if she's interested. It's a yes or no question. Saves a lot of time to be straight forward, IMO.
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Boss Man · Post by **Boss Man** » Tue Oct 09, 2007 4:55 pm

Maybe she didn't invite you to shop with her, as she was buying personals.

Let's face it, would you really want someone to ask you with her, just so she could by stuff like Hosiery and Leg Wax?

Personally in your situation, I wouldn't want someone who I had known a short while, inviting me to go Wax shopping, or something like that, which is what she might have been doing the first time. I might find that a little unusual, like you were just exploring your feelings, and suddenly, she's opening your mind to little personal habits etc etc, and you've barely even snogged, let alone co-habited.

For me that wouldn't sit quite right, like she had the whjole process a bit jumbled up. After all would you cut your Toenails or make Armpit noises, infront of someone, you'd been with for a month? No I wouldn't either.

Well okay maybe Armpit noises is an iffy place to go.

Soi really, Leg Wax no, Pair of Trousers and some Drinks glasses, yeah for a newb guy in her life, I think she'd let you see her buy those kind of things.

Maybe you did call too late. After all, people have their limits. Maybe hers is 11PM max, or something like that. She does need to sleep well, like most people, even if you might be someone who thrives on the adrenaline rush, of copious cups of Coffee, and 3 hours sleep, and I'm not saying you are that kind of person.

So you just need to give things time. You might just be in a situation, where she already made certain plans, regards some aspects of her life, and you unexpectedly turned up in them, but she likes you so she's trying to work around that, to try and make it work with you, but as she needs to do her thing right now, she's just letting you know a few boundaries, and boundaries doesn't mean off limits, just red light / green light for now, until whatever she needs to do settles itself down, and she can focus, concentrate and put more into you and her.

If she really doesn't feel it like you do, she'll let you know soon enough, I can't see why she'd decide, you're someone who needs arsing around, for some kind of cheap thrills on her part, so you'll just have to give her a bit of time, to sort herself out and organise her headspace, but if you come across too pushy, or too demanding / impatient, you run the risk of killing something potentially very good, because you wanted to make things happen at a time, when it wasn't optimal.

Patience is the key to most things.

Learn and you shall be rewarded Grasshopper

nsbmsk · Post by **nsbmsk** » Thu Oct 11, 2007 9:30 am

If she really doesn't feel it like you do, she'll let you know soon enough, I can't see why she'd decide, you're someone who needs arsing around, for some kind of cheap thrills on her part, so you'll just have to give her a bit of time, to sort herself out and organise her headspace, but if you come across too pushy, or too demanding / impatient, you run the risk of killing something potentially very good, because you wanted to make things happen at a time, when it wasn't optimal

So true Bossman.

There are also some girls who like to be chased after. If they are like that then they will appear aloof at times and at other times show you they are still interested. It's a test to see if you are worthy of their affections. But still don't be pushy. There is a fine line between interest and stalking.

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Thu Oct 11, 2007 10:15 am

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So true Bossman.

There are also some girls who like to be chased after. If they are like that then they will appear aloof at times and at other times show you they are still interested. It's a test to see if you are worthy of their affections. But still don't be pushy. There is a fine line between interest and stalking.[/quote]

Good point about the stalking, bf calls it wearing 'em down, LOL. I wouldn't go as far to say stalking, but in some cases persistance does pay off.

x_rated_mo · Post by **x_rated_mo** » Mon Oct 15, 2007 1:20 pm

wow, thats some great advice thanks alot guys !!
yeah i guess i'll do the whole patient thing .. i think she is totally the kinda girl who likes being chased after lol, head was bloated with crush feelings towards her at the beginning, which is y it was too foggy for me to see the true her.
i just cared about ... her !! lol !! but now that i chilled out a little on the situation, head kinda cleared up n i figured her out in an instant (H)
so thanks for the advice ppl !! i'll keep u updated !!

quickness · Post by **quickness** » Mon Oct 15, 2007 2:09 pm

yea just ask if she likes you. just be straightforward and make sure shes not a ho

x_rated_mo · Post by **x_rated_mo** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 1:20 pm

guys u'll never guess wat happened. so i call her couple of days ago on way back from a friends place, n i asked her wen we could c eachother. then she asked me "y u being so annoying" n i was like "yeah ur rite .. k well nice talkin to u, bye" n she said bye n we hung up .. she did tell me earlier she had to go, but she tells me that everytime so i was like w/e.

then the other day, i catch her online .. she started the convo by apologizing for her rudeness the other day .. so that hit things off pretty well .. but i cant remember wat happened the rest of the conversation cuz i was in another state of mind lol .. so anyways i just assumed she wasnt interested later on, n i sent her a msg tellin her that i'm gonna miss her n sayin that others mite not like gettin along with her but i could tolerate it cuz i find her special, n i find wat we have (or maybe for her 'had') is special .. also told her 'dont tell me to forget that kiss, cuz i will remember it for the rest of life'
cant remember exact words but something along those lines, n she replied saying "i dont know why u think i dont like u, we can see eachother before i go!"

so i just left it at that, called her back the next day (yesterday morning) n we talked .. first thing she said "hey sweetie how r u?"
so i liked that

n we jus talked n i let her off the phone .. i jus told her to call me wen she wants to c me

so? pretty good eh ?

haha ne constructive criticism?? i also called her this morning n told her good morning, turns out she was still sleeping lol so i let herr off. shes so cute

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 1:49 pm

Thats smooth, make her come to you.
But don't call her to say good morning, just wait her out.
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swanso5 · Post by **swanso5** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 5:52 pm

it's all about her it seems...i'll like you when i want to type of thing...not a great situation ecspecially if you want something permanent she'll continually turn it off and on when she pleases....hhmmmmmm

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 7:17 pm

swanso5 wrote:it's all about her it seems...i'll like you when i want to type of thing...not a great situation ecspecially if you want something permanent she'll continually turn it off and on when she pleases....hhmmmmmm

I agree, initially, it's all about her.
But once he sucks her in, then he just has to drop her for about 3 days and I'm willing to bet the tables will turn. Trick with us girls is, let us think we have the upper hand, then rip it off. If the girl is really into you, she'll be the one picking up the phone.
I'm giving away top secret stuff here!
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Boss Man · Post by **Boss Man** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 7:25 pm

How would she pick up a phone an dial, with no hand?

I say don't rip it of, just partially sever it enough, for her to still be able to poke the buttons, while the other hand holds the receiver.

Then if she jerks you around, finish the job off, otherwise if she decides to play easy to get, kiss it better

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DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 7:58 pm

Boss Man wrote:How would she pick up a phone an dial, with no hand?

I say don't rip it of, just partially sever it enough, for her to still be able to poke the buttons, while the other hand holds the receiver.

Then if she jerks you around, finish the job off, otherwise if she decides to play easy to get, kiss it better .

LMAO there are so many responses in that post, but I'm gonna hold back.
I will say, that with just the left hand she could dial the phone, coincidentally that is the same hand he's gonna get more use out of if he doesn't stop calling her!
((Sorry, I couldn't help it))

swanso5 · Post by **swanso5** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 10:28 pm

a new low here D...probably true though...and now that i think about it...

DianaB · Post by **DianaB** » Wed Oct 17, 2007 10:46 pm

swanso5 wrote:a new low here D...probably true though...and now that i think about it...

Why thank you, I take inappropriateness v. seriously, and live to reach new lows LOL
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