Patty's Workout Journal

[Nokie173]

The monday before fight, i got kicked in the head and was knocked out. I never got kicked in the head before, or knocked out. All week long I was woozy and terrified that it would happen again.

Did you see the Doctor? Are you ok now? Even though you have a headgear try to block your head!
I remember I got kicked in the head by a blackbelt who couldn't aim their kicks correctly... Bam..KO then ER
Just make sure, if your head hurts or you still feel woozy... go check it out

Total I am down 70 pounds now.

I AM SOOOOO PROUD OF YOU!!! That's Awesome! Keep it up woman!!!!

[fitoverforty]

The girl I fought second, only had to fight me, less than 4 minutes after first fight. I still fought hard. It went into an overtime round where it was a split decision 3-2 in favor of the other girl

Well, as far as I'm concerned I thought you landed more punches and kicks. Great job girl! The second fight was a tougher battle, but you never backed down and you gave it everything you had, even after just fighting another fight a few minutes earlier. I am so impressed with the height you get on your kicks! And the rock hard power behind them. I sure wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of one of those spinning back kicks or front kicks! Wow!
Oh yeah, by the way....you look FANTASTIC!!
It sounds like you have a great support team encouraging you on the sidelines! "Go Patty, stick it patty! Finish her off Patty!" Love it! That is awesome!
Thanks for sharing your video with us - it is a testament to what hard work and perseverance can achieve

[PandorasVise]

thanks you guys so much. I didn't get checked by the doctor and was worried for a while. I felt fine, other than being tired from not sleeping all week because of nerves, but trainer said that I had been looking bad. Said that if I looked bad the day of the fight, that he was going to pull me from the fight. I am fine now. The kick to the head is all fault. I wasn't blocking and we are supposed to kick to the head in sparring. We just don't do face kicks in sparring. We are allowed to kick to the face in tournaments. I am going to do a few more semi-contact fights, then I am going full contact. No head gear, no shin pads, no gloves. I want to do one full contact match before I am 40, so I have a year and a half to do it.

~Patty

[Boss Man]

It would be rude of me to accept unneccessary apologies so I won't.

Don't worry about a thing. Keep going, keep putting the time in and WELL DONE. You CAN be proud of yourself, so don't ever sell yourself short emotionally yeah .

[ldematto]

Wow Patty!! You are looking great!!!! Congratulations on your win and of course your weight loss! 70 lbs!!! You should be sooo proud!! Was the fight in CT? I'm soooo bummed I wasn't able to be there!!! Arrrggg!!! Maybe next time?

Definitely need to post some more pics - your profile pic is a long time ago - please share the new you! Way to go!!!!!!!!!

[ldematto]

Patty!!! I was strolling around and came across your new profile picture! You look FABULOUS!!!!!! OMG - you should be so proud at what you've accomplished!!

You are inspiration to us all! Thank you for sharing!!!

[PandorasVise]

Your so sweet Lu. I love you for it. I bet now you wish you were at fight instead of sunny Aruba......maybe not LOL. But next year you HAVE to come!

~Patty

[ldematto]

I so wish I was there!!! Hopefully it won't be the same time of year next year - I want to go! Unfortunately (and fortunately) we go on vacation those two weeks every year. At least you are on the East coast - I can drive, so let me know where you will be, maybe I can come to another event in another Northeastern state!

[Boss Man]

You have a look in your eyes, that says the next guy who pisses you off, will be chewed up and spat out .

If the remote possibility occurs that guy should be me, I should state upfront, the thought of being chewed doesn't bother me, but could you please be gentle when you spit .

[PandorasVise]

Oh you are so funny. I actually did laugh out load when I read that. That pic was before fight. I was so nervous, I 'knew' I was going to have butt whipped. I just knew it and was hoping not to embarrass nearly 40 year old self or the dojo I trained with. Silly me.

[PandorasVise]

I just found out the the next fights are probably be in March, I am not sure where but I am very excited. It has finally sunk into thick head that I am strong. I figured I was strong for a girl, but it turns out that I am just damn strong. They have been telling me I was strong and a good fighter, but I kind of thought they were being nice. I laughed when the guys would call me a beast or a monster, then I was in McDonalds (they have organic coffee there, honest, that food is yucky) and while waiting in line a woman walked up to me. It was one of the other fighter's mother. She said that her Matt talks about me all the time. He told her that I hit like a man. She said this in front of hubby, which was probably not so good. Another fighter, Ryan, told me that I scare him sometimes because I come out sparring 'balls to the walls" (I think that is good).


**WARNING RANT ABOUT SPOUSE**
The hubby (even though karate was his idea in a way) doesn't like me doing it anymore. He said that it wasn't lady like (thank goodness he hasn't seen me do jujitsu), not something HIS wife should do. But I have found when ever I am doing anything, he actually encourages me to quit. When I took up running and ran for 30 minutes without stopping, he said he was excited for me, but then two days later, when he asked me to run with him, he insisted that I run just 2 miles in stead of the 2.5 that I was up to. He insisted that it was better for me to do less. When I go downstairs to lift weights, he will ask me to have coffee with him instead, or ask me to cook breakfast. I will have water and towel in hand, headed for the stairs and he will tell me that he need help to do something that he doesn't need help with. I have BEGGED him to come with me to the dojo, I have asked him to spot me, I have asked him to run with me, tennis, skiing, hiking, doesn't matter. Now I see this discouraging attitude with toward kids too. I am just getting frustrated. He says he loves the thinner me, so why does he encourage me to fail and be lazy

**RANT OVER**

[fitoverforty]

It has finally sunk into thick head that I am strong. I figured I was strong for a girl, but it turns out that I am just damn strong.

Good for you! A strong woman is a force to be reckoned with, be proud of your strength...you have come a long way and earned every ounce of strength you have attained.

The hubby (even though karate was his idea in a way) doesn't like me doing it anymore. He said that it wasn't lady like (thank goodness he hasn't seen me do jujitsu), not something HIS wife should do. But I have found when ever I am doing anything, he actually encourages me to quit.

I'm sorry that he feels like that...I have been down this road at times too, and I know how it feels to constantly be pulled away from "your" time, and made to feel guilty, or not being a "good wife, or mom" because you are trying to squeeze out little bit of time to focus on just you...doing something that makes you happy, and it isn't about them. In a way, I think he may feel jealous of this attention you are paying to yourself, and the changes you have made in your body, although he is happy, he may feel a little loss of control, or that you are not putting him "numero uno". Some men fear that a strong woman won't "need" them anymore, somehow they view it as a threat to their manhood. When really it has nothing to do with them at all, it's just you - finding yourself, discovering your passions and interests and having a "life" independently of them. It is hard to find a balance...I know this. And it makes it even harder when you don't feel any support from the one who you want it from most. But please don't let it stop you from pursuing your dream and obvious talent in karate. Hang in there, strong women can be stubborn too so don't give up....hopefully he will realize in time that this is something that makes you feel complete, and strong, and happy, and we all know that if Momma is happy, everyone is happy!
I think you are an amazing woman, who works hard, gives 120% to her family, is fiercely loyal to the ones she loves, and deserves to have a little slice of life that is all your own. Any one who has the energy to do all that is a rare treasure, and your hubby is one lucky man, if ya ask me!
Good luck in March....go kick some major butt!!

[PandorasVise]

I'm sorry that he feels like that...I have been down this road at times too, and I know how it feels to constantly be pulled away from "your" time, and made to feel guilty, or not being a "good wife, or mom" because you are trying to squeeze out little bit of time to focus on just you...doing something that makes you happy, and it isn't about them.

That is exactly how I have felt, guilty. I knew this was a good place to rant, I feel better now, like I can take a deep breath and tell him "I am sorry, I can't do this or that right now, I am working out" He'll come around and be happy or he learn to live with it. Sometimes just saying a thing out loud makes you feel better.

Thanks for listening!

[PandorasVise]

Not to be mean, but it sounds like he's lazy. He probably feels bad that you can do what he can't and thus wants you to stop. It's really hard when one spouse gets healthy and the other doesn't. BUT DON'T EVER LET HIM TALK YOU INTO STOPPING!! We will come beat him up...or hell, you can do it yourself now!

[Boss Man]

Frankly, he needs a good rollocking. He needs to be asked outright, why he encourages you to do things, then tries to do things that look like discouragement, or attempts to stop you doing what you want.

That kind of Jekyll and Hyde mentality is not what you want or deserve.

He needs to be told, that if he has no real desire to be there for you, or with you when you do certain things, then at least be happy for you, because his attitude smacks of selfishness, or at least some kind of feelings he's being too weak to admit to.

Unless he's made to see how his actions look to you and made to face up to possible conflicting emotions, he will continue to persist in this yes / no cycle he is in.

You're going to have to force him to admit certain things, in a reserved and calm manner, so he feels he has half a chance, to say what clearly needs saying, without feeling like he'll get his head bitten off.

It's the only way he can confront this kind of behaviour, because one little huffy aside, or a brief exchange from you, won't solve it, if the issue gets broached and then quickly brushed aside again, when you change the subject or leave the room.

I know you are capable of handling this situation, with the sensibility it deserves, but unless you do, the longer he fails to admit how he really feels and the more likely his procrastinations will make it harder and harder, until the only way would be to force him into it, and stop him using tired excuses and / or actions to avoid the issue

What you can be is extremely proud of everything you have been achieving, so don't you let anyone or anything put you off doing what you enjoy. Why should you be expected to start doing things, that will just hurt some of the physical improvement, you have worked hard for? It's your right in 30-40 years from now, to have a better qualtiy of life than many that age would. Nobody has that right to deny you a longer, more fulfilling life, because you being more inactive and less pro-active suits them better.

So GOOD LUCK with everything you're doing and may have to do in the coming weeks and months. You're a fantastic person and you deserve to feel like a person of very high worth, because that's what you are .