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[Martin-Boy2]

Went back in there, bout 7ish, but she wasn't there, perhaps not working today, this is the thing, i don't want to come across as a creep, stalker anything like that, but if im going to talk to her in person i need to see her in person and that's the only place i see her, i never bump into her outside which is something i could ask her about.

Either way i guess i'll have to try a different time, it's a bit lame having to walk back and forth to there and im not prepared to keep doing so, what do i do with the online business, should i add her now or should i wait til ive spoken to her as it's now another day? I just want to know where i stand.

Which is another possibility, there's a few young guys that work there that are about age and some more confident and talkative than me, so it's likely she could be hitting it off with one of them, i just don't know nothing about her until i talk to her!

God damn it, even when im prepared to try i can't seem to get through.

Guess it'll have to wait til at least tomorrow, but i feel ive syched myself up and was confident enough to talk to her today had she been there, and it's a different day tomorow - not making excuses.

In other news starting on the shed that will be used as a gym, although i can barely function at the moment, i hope for it to be use in the not so near future.


Feeling a bit fed up, maybe because it's the start of the weekend and im not up to much, although tomorrow i'll be working on the shed, would be nice to spend it with someone i like, what do you guys think of the internet situation, should i leave that until ive tried to talk to her, i mean it's another try but just because i have a bit of time at the moment doesn't mean im going to use it all on tryign to speak to her and come across as a freak, something which im probably doing a good job of right now!

[fit-fanatic-2025]

Hey Martin! I've been reading a little bit about your predicatment. It is very hard to ask someone out while others are within earshot I would think. i personally would just forget it like Boss says.

Plenty of fish in the sea and maybe by forgetting about it and just going on with life when you do see her around you will feel more comfortable in being yourself.

PS I'm sure she doesn't think your creepy hanging around but she might get the hint that you like her.

Just two cents. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

[Boss Man]

Don't add her online, otherwise it might look odd if you do talk to her and at some point she finds out you'd contacted her before in a roundabout way, as that might look a bit weird.

I'd still go long the lines of forget it, but that's your decision not mine.

[Martin-Boy2]

You guys are heading me in a direction i don't want to go.... but i have no doubt that you're only telling me what's right.

The thing is, i made myself look decent, went down there as i was after a film anyway, noticed she wasn't there, then as i got to the counter there was a guy musta been about 20 serving and she was right next to him, it was fairly busy, it turned out that it was time to be served and he was serving me so i guess i couldn't shout across and start talking or stand there and wait for her otherwise id make myself look weird.

You see, on way down there, and when i was in there, i was fine, completely myself, and it seems that when i see her confidence went down the pan and body language just sunk, almost as though lips sealed thereselves shut with super glue. I sound pathetic, i know, perhaps it's where ive never been in a proper relationship myself, this is all new to me and i don't know how to approach it, and i don't feel too confident trying it on with people around me, more so own age, if they were older id probably care less.

You see if i know someone, i can talk to them absoutely no problem at all, don't have t oworry about nothing. But when i don't, breaking the ice has always been a problem for me.

Im guessing it's just a phase, that'll end in a week or so, and i won't care for her so much and it'll just be like talking to any other person, but that's the thing, i obviously feel like this for a reason, right? It must mean something, so why not TRY, jeez.

When i bought a film, the guy asked for name and line of address, so she being next to him i think must of heard, so that's giving me a temptation to add her online, not really style, but i know some of friends have had it off with plenty of girls through talking to them online, i guess it elimantes the pressure of having people around you and all. I know you older folks (not being rude) will probably think it's silly or not the right one to do things, and i agree to an extent, i prefer to be more oldschool myself, but i feel where im too un-confident enough to do this, if this is avaliable as an aid, why not use it? At least if i add her i could quickly find out if she is single or not, and if she isn't then all this worrying is for nothing.

What didn't help was when i was bought the film and turned round some fucking asshole must of been right up and bumped into me, cool huh.

So, this is more directly aimed at Jess as she's more around age, but looking from what you other guys think too! Should i add her online? I wouldn't quite know what to say, and when i bump into her in the store she'll be like, oh it's the guy from the internet. Or something creepy like that, but you know i could get to know her better that way, provided i know what to say, as typing it out can come across completely differently from words.

Or do i wait a few weeks until this phase shifts and stop going in there and then see if i can talk to her without feeling like this, but that may tempt me not to try anything as i have no emotionally feelings for her, must say im tempted to try the online business but not sure, it's not something im used to nor probably good at, it's easy to say forget her, but im tired of all this same shit, i want to try and get a relationship, at least see what i can make of it.


In other news, probably going to do some sprinting later, yep stupid idea i know with the knee and all but i really am sick and tired of waiting around, i must of been waiting 4 months now with no clear diagnosis of nothing and it's not like the problems are being solved, if they were recovery periods that would make me better i could deal with it, but not knowing for months and it severly affecting training is starting to get to me, waiting for weeks just to book a doctors appointment, and then months for a rhematology appointment, then weeks for an x-ray, this i can't wait no more, id pay all money and get the problems gone in a month if i could.

So probably going to warm up with brief jogging and try out some 25 yard sprints x10, rest 10mins and repeat, see how it goes, tired of the slow jogs marathon type, and i always feel to run fast, it's what i like to do.

[MissJenaKay]

Darling, three things for you.

1) Calm down. I know that you're nervous. I get the same way, I've never broken the ice with ANYONE. Lol. I'm about as shy as humanly possible in person. But if you freak yourself out about it, you'll never get the courage to even add her online because you'll be afraid that she'll think you're a freak or a creeper or something. From what I can see, you're a nice guy, not a creep. So just calm down a little, she's just human, not some goddess. If you mess up a tiny bit, she will not smite you. Lol.

2) Just try it. It's your life, live it. You're sick of sitting around and putting off training, so you're doing sprints. Why are you not using that kind of drive in the situation with the girl, you're clearly sick of not knowing and not taking that step forward, so just do it. Lol.

3)

So, this is more directly aimed at Jess as she's more around age, but looking from what you other guys think too! Should i add her online? I wouldn't quite know what to say, and when i bump into her in the store she'll be like, oh it's the guy from the internet. Or something creepy like that, but you know i could get to know her better that way, provided i know what to say, as typing it out can come across completely differently from words.

Did you mean me? Lol. If so, I'm not Jess. Lol.
Anyway. I say go for it. In today's world, most people are used to getting friend requests from people that look vaguely familiar, you won't be seen as a creep, I promise.

[Martin-Boy2]

Darling, three things for you.

1) Calm down. I know that you're nervous. I get the same way, I've never broken the ice with ANYONE. Lol. I'm about as shy as humanly possible in person. But if you freak yourself out about it, you'll never get the courage to even add her online because you'll be afraid that she'll think you're a freak or a creeper or something. From what I can see, you're a nice guy, not a creep. So just calm down a little, she's just human, not some goddess. If you mess up a tiny bit, she will not smite you. Lol.

2) Just try it. It's your life, live it. You're sick of sitting around and putting off training, so you're doing sprints. Why are you not using that kind of drive in the situation with the girl, you're clearly sick of not knowing and not taking that step forward, so just do it. Lol.

3)

So, this is more directly aimed at Jess as she's more around age, but looking from what you other guys think too! Should i add her online? I wouldn't quite know what to say, and when i bump into her in the store she'll be like, oh it's the guy from the internet. Or something creepy like that, but you know i could get to know her better that way, provided i know what to say, as typing it out can come across completely differently from words.

Did you mean me? Lol. If so, I'm not Jess. Lol.
Anyway. I say go for it. In today's world, most people are used to getting friend requests from people that look vaguely familiar, you won't be seen as a creep, I promise.

Oh shit, im sorry i wasn't with it when i wrote that lol.

You're right, why aren't i using that drive with her? It's because i guess there's no one to get in the way or nerves or anything like that to stop with training, but it's more physcological mumbojumbo with her, err, does feel weird, i think i'll send her a request, whether it's the right thing or not is debatable, but you see, i just dunno what to say online, as it's different to talking in person and it may be perceived differently.

[MissJenaKay]

Oh shit, im sorry i wasn't with it when i wrote that lol.

You're right, why aren't i using that drive with her? It's because i guess there's no one to get in the way or nerves or anything like that to stop with training, but it's more physcological mumbojumbo with her, err, does feel weird, i think i'll send her a request, whether it's the right thing or not is debatable, but you see, i just dunno what to say online, as it's different to talking in person and it may be perceived differently.

Babe, you'll be FINE. I promise.

[Martin-Boy2]

Oh shit, im sorry i wasn't with it when i wrote that lol.

You're right, why aren't i using that drive with her? It's because i guess there's no one to get in the way or nerves or anything like that to stop with training, but it's more physcological mumbojumbo with her, err, does feel weird, i think i'll send her a request, whether it's the right thing or not is debatable, but you see, i just dunno what to say online, as it's different to talking in person and it may be perceived differently.

Babe, you'll be FINE. I promise.

Spose i gotta give it a try, the thing is, would be better to request her now, while it's sorta fresh in her head (if she paid any notice), but that's the thing, where i don't really use it, i don't have any up to date pictures or not and id rather not be reffered to as this guy but someone she can identify, and that's the only real concern i have, starting out what to say as she may not know her i am and i'd feel like a pedo coming on to her and all, and won't it make things akward when i next see her in the store? Oh you've been talking to me online, kinda thing lol


In other non emotional teenage news, went for sprints.

Did a lap of the park to warm up, then did;
25 yard sprint x10 - resting between
rest 10 seconds
Rest 10minutes
Repeat once.

So really, 20x 25 yrd sprints, i was getting around the late end of the 9 seconds, then as fatigue was kicking in breaking into the 11's, i may regret this, so much impact and force, but it seemed to make legs a bit sore and will hopefully give calves a kick up the backside to grow, just don't want to risk it too much, especially as im semi-functional as it is, ughh.

[Boss Man]

Either talk to her in the store or don't but don't add her online then try to talk to her, or it might look strange, that you looked like you could only get to know her online first, when you had the opportunity to speak to her face to face.

Speak to her face to face first, then you can add her afterwards online when you know it's okay.

[MissJenaKay]

Spose i gotta give it a try, the thing is, would be better to request her now, while it's sorta fresh in her head (if she paid any notice), but that's the thing, where i don't really use it, i don't have any up to date pictures or not and id rather not be reffered to as this guy but someone she can identify, and that's the only real concern i have, starting out what to say as she may not know her i am and i'd feel like a pedo coming on to her and all, and won't it make things akward when i next see her in the store? Oh you've been talking to me online, kinda thing lol

Then don't add her online. If you're just going to reason yourself away from advice, don't bother asking me about it.
You've also managed to make me feel like a creep. Lol. Thanks.

[Boss Man]

Jena a creep, whatever next? Cars powered with Milk?

You're being too hard on yourself Jena.

[MissJenaKay]

Haha. Well, Boss, a lot of people I dated I got to know online or I dated long distance. Makes me feel like there must be something wrong with me if you guys are looking at it the way you do. :/

[Martin-Boy2]

Jena, sorry, i didn't imply that you were a creep at all or anything like that, i just don't know what to do with myself. I wasn't hasty enough to add her, and after seeing Boss's comment i don't think i will, because what he has said is true. I don't know what to do with the situation but it isn't going no where, if i was in a 1 on 1 environment with her, i know things would be different, it just seems im so self concious, have a low self esteem and confidence, when i know someone i can talk and talk and talk, when i don't, im as shy as they come. What the right answer is i won't know, but in just over a week im going to get hair cut and maybe i'll feel different or more confident about the thing as i probably won't care as much, either way the longer i leave it the worse it gets for me chances wise. Im a decent guy, don't i deserve a relationship, of course i do, i deserve to at least try, but im too fucking pathetic enough to give myself that push, it's not that im scared or nothing, it's that when i get there i crumble, i dunno, emotions suck.


By the way, going to make a seperate post now as to all problems and would greatly appreciate any feedback at all as it's took me a while to go into detail and i didn't want to post it on the end here as it isn't relevant and don't want to mix the 2 topics, cheers.

[Martin-Boy2]

Ok would like to hear some thoughts, opinions and some suggestions as i am getting really tired of waking up with
problems and everyday life activities being ruined. I will write a list as i am a person with numerous problems and more
or less no where near 100% functional, please if you have any suggestions or opinions, give me some advice, because
im seriously considering just spending all money i have to get back to normal as i can't take waiting no more
it's been months and i am no where near any better, i have problems everyday, i can't have a day of feeling normal.

Here's the list of current problems;


Knee pain - Mostly from the back of knee, both knees, just feels weak and achey constant, walking up stairs, riding a bike
will cause pain in the front of kneecap, that's just a few of the activities that hurt with the pain. It does originat from
the back of the knee i feel, but is affecting the knees overall. Now right knee has got significantly worse and can't
fully straighten without pain, it has got better since stretching it, but it is no where near functional and i feel it's taking
too long, that's not to mention i originally was checking knees out for the pain in the back of the knee. Which as far
as im aware is the hamstring tendon, possibly bicep fermois as it's mainly the inner part of knee's tendons that hurt.



Ankle/Plantar flexion pain - More than likely linked to the knee problems, whenever i do a calf raise or plantarflexion, after
a few repeitions ankle will start burning and aching, dorsiflexion isn't so bad and not noticeable, plantarflexion is.
I am working on ankle mobility but it isn't helping either ankles or knees, right ankle when walking is worse
i guess because right knee is worse. But it seems i can't even go out walking without ankles aching and this is
affecting life! I must say though, and i have always thought this, that knees are NOT inline with feet, and ive been
concerned with this for a while but a rhemtalogist once said that it's ok.



Pelvis/Low back pain - On and off, at least for some time i can sit down, but im sure it's the illium part of pelvis, the
2 balls at the side of the spine insert at the lumbar region. Not sure what the word is, but it would help A LOT, but when
part of your body feels more raised, almost as though the bone or whatever is coming more to the skin and easily more to feel
inflammation? Either way, not sure if this is linked to either of the above problems, but it's getting a real nuisance and putting
me off a lot of activities and makes me feel like im wrecking back, when in fact i feel it's originating from the pelvis.


Elbow tenderness - Keep getting this, mostly left elbow just above the elbow and below the tricep, feels really tender and aches
at times, ive also noticed during certain lifts and movements, pull ups, anything with elbow flexion, sometimes bicep tendons
will ache too, so all surrounding the elbow


Shoulders/upper back/Neck - Ok, this is the biggest problem of all as it's incredibly hard to find any answers. Fatigue/aches
/Joint/boney aches. I get it all around shoulder, in collarbone/clavicle when running, aswell as in shoulder blades during
dips and overhead presses - with a barbell. I feel i have a lack of mobility, say when rolling your shoulders, especially frontwards
if i were to do skipping shoulders would ache, if i were to do any day to day acitvites like using a hammer shoulders will ache soon
. Im sure it's causing neck weakness in cervical spine, which has been a bit better the past few days but it seems to come and go.
Following this, upper back, usually when i lean forward, feels so stiff and may be contributing to the problem, i notice
when i was doing overhead press with a barbell or front squats that during and after reps upper back would feel incredibly stiff
almost as if it was built up with oxygen liek a ballon and about to burst, weird.



A fullbody MRI scan?


I dunno what to do, but i can't wait around no more, it's been months, is affecting everyday life and progress and i can't bear to wait any longer. Having to wait another week just for the discharged physio letter to reach the GP, then to see him just to get him to refer me to rhematology which will be another good few months, then for them to not discover anything and send me back to the physio and start all over.
I just can't wait anymore, and although i don't have much, im willing to pay all money just to feel normal, im a teenager
i haven't had any trauma, i SHOULD NOT be feeling like this. Im tired of feeling like a cripple, aching everyday and being limited to what i can do.


What should i do? I was considering the chriopractor giving me a spinal adjustment, not sure how much this would be, but not sure where this would help any of problems.

Any links in the problems, any suggestions or what do you guys think? Even if you don't have a direct answer i would love some feedback. I have done hours apon hours of research but i can't put finger on it. The NHS just take too long and i need these problems sorted i haven't got time to be waiting around.

[MissJenaKay]

Jena, sorry, i didn't imply that you were a creep at all or anything like that, i just don't know what to do with myself.

No offense taken, dear, just saying, made me feel a little off. And I'm trying to work more on making sure that I'm a priority in own life. initial reaction is to just let it go and not confront people when they make me feel off, but I figured I'd voice it for once. Don't feel bad, though. As for the girl situation, I'm sure you'll get it sorted.

What should i do? I was considering the chriopractor giving me a spinal adjustment, not sure how much this would be, but not sure where this would help any of problems.

dad used to have a lot of problems with his back, but now he goes to a chiropractor monthly and he says that his back has been doing a lot better. He used to throw it out all the time, but now he seems to be doing a lot better. So if you want to give a chiropractor a shot, I'd say go for it. c: I think if you can get your back aligned and then do training to get the muscles to hold it all in place better, then I think you'd see some improvement. But I'm not sure, so don't quote me on it.