Depressing...grrrr

[Frenchmaid1969]

Really its seem impossible for me to loose weight is it because i am 42 and body is slower now, or i dont do enough exercice.. i bike at home well not every night but i do 30 min...Started may 1 i will use bike to work so its 32 km a day i can't start now because it will rain for like 4 days straight...so

But i am getting depress... i dont understand that 2 week ago i weigh 165 now 170 but i started to drink water will this make me heavier....

No to be lying i do eat junk.. i get craving for sweet....but i eat good food too.. i eat Fiber one in morning, salad, chicken.. not much read meat...

What else should i do.. i know cut all the sweet all togheter and do more exercice...

Do i really need to count calories intake...

I work well i sat on butt all day long i kind of notice that i got some flat spot there... grrrr

[Nokie173]

Go to the journal section and see Sandi Diet journal or the workout journals... Lu, Lynne, and bonnie are beautiful mature ladies and such an inspiration!
Reading their journal will totally get your motivation up. Don't give up...

What do you eat on a daily basis and what time?? What other workout you do besides bike?

[Frenchmaid1969]

Ok thanks! I will check their journal..... where do i find this!!! Sorry i am still lost on this site sometime!

I do just the biking... i try to lift weight since i have a full weight set in basement, i also have dumbell and stuff like that also one of those ball... but i try the weight god i did like 12 lift and arm hurts.. so i discourage myself and never did it again... i also have a skipping rope.. but i did not even 5 min and god i was so out of breath is was not funny....

I think that maybe i quit too early.. not gaving body chance to absorb what i gave him!!!

[Nokie173]

Here is Sandie:
viewtopic.php?f=26&t=9585&start=0
AWESOME pictures and results! Today is her 45th bday too!!!

Here is the link for the workout journal:
viewforum.php?f=23
Work In Progress - FitoverForty
Lu's Workout Journal
New updated workout, out with old in with new..
Noosk's Workout Journal

The above listed are mature ladies who are working hard and NOT giving up!

Sorness is fine because you are working out your muscle. Try to do 10reps to start out or better yet 8reps.
How's your dieT?

[fitoverforty]

Really its seem impossible for me to loose weight is it because i am 42 and body is slower now,

I know it is harder now - I am 47 and it has been a real fight to lose weight. But the most important thing to remember is that you have to continually try - everyday - to keep it on your mind- what you are eating..how is going to affect your body...is it going to help you lose weight, or is it going to cause you to gain weight. We all have temptations, and struggle with the occasional junk food eating - but you have to make up your mind to make the right choices more often than you make the wrong choices. It can be done, not overnight, women in their forties have slower metabolisms. It takes more effort. Please don't get so discouraged or depressed. We can help you along this journey. Many of us have faced the same obstacles you are feeling with feeling overwhelmed by the exercise, and one thing I have learned is that I have to do this for me...it has to become a priority in life.

What else should i do.. i know cut all the sweet all togheter and do more exercice...

You just answered your own question. Yes, cut out the junk, choose healthier sweets like fruit and exercise more.

i try to lift weight since i have a full weight set in basement, i also have dumbell and stuff like that also one of those ball... but i try the weight god i did like 12 lift and arm hurts.. so i discourage myself and never did it again... i also have a skipping rope.. but i did not even 5 min and god i was so out of breath is was not funny....

You are so lucky to have a full weight set and dumb bells! You have to condition the body to the strain you are putting on it - it will be hard in the beginning but keep at it - do less reps, or less weight at first. Skipping rope is a great cardio workout - but it is tough, I know, but I encourage you to keep at it also, I promise you it will get easier the more you do it. Try to build up your core strength by doing planks, reverse crunches, bicycle crunches, etc.
Watch your diet - keep it as clean as possible - and remember what you eat is always a choice...choose well and you will feel better inside without the guilt feelings or the feelings of failure.
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Thanks you so much!!!! I will read this during the weekend!

Also what i have a hard time with is that i have a teen at home and husband... he does not eat any veggies, soup, fruit well every seldom, no salad... so its hard for me he eat like hamberger, pizza, mc do... so i alway have the temptation to eat like them...

But son is pretty rip he goes downstair working out all the time he is 17 he got huge muscle in the upper of his body...

husban can't do any of this he use to be pretty fit and muscular but got hit by a semi 7 years ago and then could not do nothing... so he lost a lots of muscle, he take prescription pills all the time and not very healthy!!! Poor him!!!!

[Boss Man]

husban can't do any of this he use to be pretty fit and muscular but got hit by a semi 7 years ago and then could not do nothing...

Not sure what that means. You mean he's got some sort of muscle wasting disease, or some kind of Chronic Pain condition?

It's a long continual process, that will continue for the rest of your life if you let it. Don't get frustrated, just be patient and understanding with yourself. You can still be proud of all you have done and very proud of still doing it, because many start and can't make it beyond 4-6 weeks.

In time it will get a little better to mange, so keep going, good luck and keep identifying the few foibles you have, because when you identify hinderances to physical progress, you can then set about trying to change them.

A new day brings new opportunities to further your goals. Chin up, be positive and no worries yeah. You really are a good looking Lady and you just need to be a little more forgiving and patient with yourself.

.

[sandigirl06]

Boss, I think she meant that her husband was hit by a truck and was severly impaired by the accident.

French, I am soo sorry to hear that. I hope your husband is doing better now. Well, your story is soooo familiar to me. Middle age, kids in the house so lots of goodies around. Yep, I know it all too well!! Guess what? You really can overcome all these obstacles. It is very hard to not eat their "yummy" food at first. I can't tell you how may times I sat at the dinner table with piece of fish while they ate warm butter rolls, chicken cutlets and mashed potatoes. It's not fun but I knew I did not have the priviledge to be eating such foods. They are young with fast metabolisms and I am not. Plain and simple. I always have "Sandi food" available on hand so I don't cave and eat bad stuff. YOU can do this. Just stay CONSISTANT and the magic will happen. It took a while to see real results but when I did they came fast! Read the forums here. I know you have visited this site in the past as I have read some of your earlier posts. Just make a plan and stuck with it. We ALL fall off the horse. As a matter of fact I am struggling a bit at this time with diet. I will never give up and go back to old ways, though. Good luck and hope you stick around this time and take full advandage of the info and great support you will get here!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Thank you Fitoverfourty!

For the encouragement note....I know that sometime i got the answer to question but i find it hard to get going.... now summer is coming and i kind of feel bad not to fit in summer dress... well i can still get in them but its too tight to be able to feel comfortable....and i guess i want to get rid of this quick wich is not a good attitude....

[Frenchmaid1969]

husban can't do any of this he use to be pretty fit and muscular but got hit by a semi 7 years ago and then could not do nothing...

Not sure what that means. You mean he's got some sort of muscle wasting disease, or some kind of Chronic Pain condition?

It's a long continual process, that will continue for the rest of your life if you let it. Don't get frustrated, just be patient and understanding with yourself. You can still be proud of all you have done and very proud of still doing it, because many start and can't make it beyond 4-6 weeks.

In time it will get a little better to mange, so keep going, good luck and keep identifying the few foibles you have, because when you identify hinderances to physical progress, you can then set about trying to change them.

A new day brings new opportunities to further your goals. Chin up, be positive and no worries yeah. You really are a good looking Lady and you just need to be a little more forgiving and patient with yourself.

.

Sorry sometime i have hard to to express self its seem that i think in french but write in english...
He was in an accident 7 years ago he got hit by as semi-trailer so he got on his left side soft tissu damage one the whole left side and because of his pain his right side try to compensate which cause him problem.. also he is on Morphine, valium and some antidepresant but just recently i had to bring him to the emergency he was loosing concienceness and stopping breathing... so all of this make me very nervous too i guess and when i am nervous i tend to go toward junk food!!!

I know but sometime i feel like i am lazy, like i have no energy but i said maybe unstead to be setting on the couach i could skip rope or bike on the stationary bike...i have in head that its could be cause bit change of hormone .. this is why i get fat quick everytime i eat junk... but i am not into menaupause yet!!!

Thank you BossMan for the encouraging words... i think i need it....sometime i don't know why but i feel that i am not worth much because i don,t put the effort i need to in order to achive what i want so it make me feel liek i am lazy...

About the water... if i drink its a lots of it will it make me gain weight... i taught that it clean the toxin you have in your body!!!!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Boss, I think she meant that her husband was hit by a truck and was severly impaired by the accident.

French, I am soo sorry to hear that. I hope your husband is doing better now. Well, your story is soooo familiar to me. Middle age, kids in the house so lots of goodies around. Yep, I know it all too well!! Guess what? You really can overcome all these obstacles. It is very hard to not eat their "yummy" food at first. I can't tell you how may times I sat at the dinner table with piece of fish while they ate warm butter rolls, chicken cutlets and mashed potatoes. It's not fun but I knew I did not have the priviledge to be eating such foods. They are young with fast metabolisms and I am not. Plain and simple. I always have "Sandi food" available on hand so I don't cave and eat bad stuff. YOU can do this. Just stay CONSISTANT and the magic will happen. It took a while to see real results but when I did they came fast! Read the forums here. I know you have visited this site in the past as I have read some of your earlier posts. Just make a plan and stuck with it. We ALL fall off the horse. As a matter of fact I am struggling a bit at this time with diet. I will never give up and go back to old ways, though. Good luck and hope you stick around this time and take full advandage of the info and great support you will get here!!!

Hi Sandy!!!! Thanks so much..!!!! I don't know its bizarre i come here and tell myself ok i am gaving a kick... its time now i will start biking and stuff... then i get home, clean, cook,dishes.. because i doing work for 3 people since husband can't do much... and like i wrote to BossMan i get really stress out and tend to eat the junk.. not so much chips or salty stuff but sweet stuff... like last night i woke up around 2:30 because husban was having nightmare and he woke me up so i went in the kitchin and he bought me a birthday cake on the 27 i was going to take a piece i find it very hard not to put in im mouth... i put it back and drank some water and went to bed...

Sometime i wonder if its the stress i am going through or because i just hit 42 and i dont burn fat easily now... but everytime i go on the stupid scale its show 170 its funny because i don't look like i weight that much i guess its all over body not just in one spot...

I know that 170 is very unhealthy because i mesure not much i am only 5'3 but i think problem too is that i have not clue how to start... well i know diet, and exercice but i never know how much calories to eat, do i eat enough or not enough that will make me go fat and brozing on the internet there is too much stuff about how to loose weight that i get overwelm.... i don't know where to look!!!

I know a while ago someone told me to calculate the calorie for body to fonction but then i can't remember the rest.. i guess i should print the post or will have to go thought the older post i have...

I feel bad because i feel that everytime i come here i reapeat myself... and dont achive nothing.. i hope one day i will get the result i want to be healthy!!!!

[sandigirl06]

Hi, French.....good for you for not eating the cake in the middle of the night!! That was a decision you made and it was the right one. I would've had trouble with that one too. I LOVE cake!! Making a lot of those "little" decisions turns into big results. Getting started is indeed the hardest part. First you have to decide how bad you want it. Just a little or REAL BAD??? I think that desire is a major factor as you will have to make sacrifices that may be difficult at first. You CAN do it but do you WANT to do it?? Push through the hard times in the beginning and it becomes a way of life for you, then you are set!! Once you start a diet and exercise program you will have much more energy and that lethargic feeling that plagues you will go away.....that is a promise!! How do I know? Because last year at this very time I was in the same place you are. I was overweight, tired and miserable! I had to go buy new summer clothes because old ones did not fit. I was 25 lbs heavier than the summer before!!!! husband suggested we join a local gym. Of course I protested but he was determined to get the old me back. He told me to just give it a try but I was not happy at the thought of getting up to go to the gym at 5 a.m. since we have kids and that is the only time we have available to go. Soooo, yes, was hard at first. I whined and complained. I just started with cardio at first. About 30 minutes easy on elliptical. Then an amazing thing happened. I started to feel BETTER with much more energy! Sometimes I couldn't even sleep at night! I really liked the way I felt and later incorperated some weights. I immedietely dropped a few pounds but diet needed work. I browsed the internet as I became obsessed with fitness. Imagine that!! From tired and lazy to fitness freak! In July I found ShapeFit. I read all the forums on nutrition. ALL of the answers were right here for free!!! So then I incorperated a healthy diet ditching all of the things I thought were "healthy". Wow, I really learned a lot!! I've had a lot of help along the way. husband is a great supporter and he even hired a personal trainer for me....however, the WILL to do it, make the sacrifices and get butt out of bed is something that I own and you can too!!! So, now one year later I lost all that weight and got rid of all of last year's big clothes. Good thing I saved all of skinny clothes because those are what i will be wearing this year and beyond. Sooo, the reason I am telling you all of this is so you know it CAN be done at any age. Middle age has it's aches and pains, that's for sure. I suspect I gained all that weight due to pre-menopause. Hormones are a powerful force but can be beat with a good plan. Don't think that since you have reached that point in your life that you have to give up looking and feeling good. With work and commitment you can achieve anything!! Start small and work up. When you get the "fitness fever" there will be no stopping you!! This is worth it because YOU are worth it and your hubby needs you to be strong inside and out! Keep making those positive decisions and tell yourself you can do it even on your worst days. As i said, there will be times when you are weak and cave to temptation. When that happens tell yourself you are human and keep moving forward. As long as most of your choices are good ones you are on the right path. If you have any questions feel free to ask. I am not an expert but I have learned a lot. Also as Nokie said visit the journals of other women our age who are here and going strong. They are awesome role models and very inspiring. We all started out in the same place and are still striving to reach our goals. We always will be. We are always here to support you so you don't have to feel alone. Believe me, you are NOT! Sorry so long...haha. Reach for the stars!

[Boss Man]

I agree. You need to remind yourself that you are worth it. You have self worth and a lot of value as a person. Yes you sometimes make mistakes by your own admissions, or perhaps don't give enough, but it doesn't stop the fact you're worth so much being true.

If hubby does'nt really like Anti-depressants, ahs he considered something like St Johns Wort?

It does interfere with Anti-depressants, so it's not a good thing to have both together.

Also Vitamin B8, sometimes referred to as Inositol, has shown promise with OCD and depression. It's found in Whole-grains and released when they digest. It's supplemental too, but as always the caveat is, that some supplements can interefere with medications, so check for contraindications with certain supplements, in relation to certain medications.

Whatever you do though, don't stop believing in yourself for your own self worth. You're a great person with a quite beautiful personality, so keep seeing the positives in yourself and just be a little more patient, understanding and forgiving with yourself sometimes, because you deserve to be .

[Frenchmaid1969]

Hi Sandigirl06!

Thank you for all the information and support! That help....I can really go to the gym but i do have a lots of stuff in the house to get me started... i am not too sure if i mention we got an exercices machine downstair, i also have those free dumbell 5, 10 and 15 also one of those bar with those round weight you can add each side, i have a skipping rope, an exercice ball, and indoor bike and well outdoor bike wich i am waiting for the rain to stop so i can use it to go to work...

I don't know what up with me ... its like i have no weel power, i guess like you say start slow and then once you started and see result it will gave you the insentive to do more....!!!

I also have a bad habit i always jump on the stupid scale...lol... i get depress when it look like i gain weight but i know that your body fluctuat sometime during the day so.. but still i got grrr... i gain weight again....

Maybe i should just mesure with a mesuring tape waist and thigh... ????

Again how much calorie i think i ask 500 times how to calculate this you guy's will get tired of me...lol...
its basal + what you do during the day this is the calorie you should eat???? oh boy i not too sure now...!

[Frenchmaid1969]

Hi Boss Man!

Thank you for those nice encouragement words... i really appreciate that..I don't hear this often maybe this is why i have a hard time to believe it...

The antidepressant he was on were very strong and really made him sick i had to rush him to the emergency in last month he from passing out and convulsion now he does not take those but still take welbutin, valium and morphine for pain.. so many i hope one day he will be free of all of this... i scrary sometime there is so many people who overdose with precription meds... because they took the wrong one.... I might consider changing doctor to get different opinion!

I don't knwo why i have a hard time to belive in myself.... its bizarre but I should because i did accomplish a lots in life i struggle when dad died in a young age 35, then me and brother took care of ourself becasue mother was too sick, then i move in a english place, i learn english by myself, went back to school to get diploma because i had a kid at 17, then i raise family and went to the university for 2 years and work for the gov. in the education department here but still i have a hard time to feel that way about myself... i guess i need to work on self confidence and maybe if i am able to achive looseing weight it will make me feel better in myself and maybe i will start been happier...

i just want to thank you for those nice words i mean a lots to me !!!! Thanks!!!!